Many a times in life we have to climb over hurdles and cross over uneven roads... And if we are not careful, we get to fall (graciously or not) flat on our face. I have been "Aunt Agony" to a few friends of mine but it can never work on myself... I guess by now you already knew, i am a "Drama Queen" of sort. Don't worry, i am not the broken wrist counterpart but rather... the Sensitive New Age Guy. Let's talk about the phases of a broken relationship, one that wasn't initiated by you...
Phase 1 -Denial
"No! I don't believe he will do this to me..."
"He still loves me... I know that"
"He must have a reason, could his work be pushing him too hard?"
Phase 2 - Self Blaming
"It must be something i do..."
"Am i not good enough? It must be"
"Something must be wrong with me! Yes! I knew it... It has to me the clothes i wear!"
Phase 3 - Anger
"Who does he think he is! What rights does he have to do this to me!"
"F**K Him! to hell with him n his kind!"
"I hate him!!! Next time i see him, i am doing some damage!"
Phase 4 - Destruction
"Let me drink myself away..."
"Why do anyone care? Let me f**k the world apart!"
"Beer? Wine? Who cares! Just give me whatever"
Phase 5 - Forgiveness
"I forgive you..."
"He must have his reasons enough to be this drastic... it's alright."
"I don't hate him anymore than i do to a stranger."
Phase 6 - Release
"I hope he will be happy wherever he is now. Seriously!"
"Life is such, i still have a family and i still have friends i love."
"We can still be friends..."
I have gone through all this phases myself and experienced what no mortal enemy of mine shall need to go through. Right now, I am at peace with my being... Hatred has long gone and only smiles are left. I had the memories, the beauty of happiness being once together etched within me. Right now, which phase are you going through? No matter which one... just be Happy.
-Leo
Saturday, November 8, 2008
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